Do I Stay or Leave? Why The New Year Is The Perfect Time To Unlock Your Intuition & Make Relationship Decisions

Ah, the holidays—a time for twinkling lights, endless cookies, and… existential relationship crises? Yep, if you’ve ever unwrapped a gift from your partner while wondering if you’ll still be together next Christmas, you know exactly what I’m talking about.

The New Year brings with it all those “fresh start” vibes, which makes it the perfect time to tap into your intuition and finally get some clarity about whether to stay or leave. Spoiler alert: The answer isn’t about rushing a decision—it’s about finding stillness in the chaos.

Let’s talk about how you can make this notoriously tormenting decision with a little help from winter solstice vibes, nervous system regulation, and the magic of New Year’s intentions.

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Step 1: Find Your Cave (Yes, Like a Hibernating Bear)

Winter solstice, aka the darkest time of the year, is all about pause. Animals get it—they’re not pacing around their dens, stressing about the future. They’re curled up, resting, and trusting that the right time to emerge will come.

What if you did the same?

Right now, your nervous system might be in overdrive. You’re running around, hypervigilant, doing everything—managing kids, work, and your partner’s laundry list of needs—because you feel you have to. Your brain’s on high alert, scanning for threats like a security camera on steroids.

“You can’t tune into your intuition while running from metaphorical lions. Find your cave, not your chaos.”

So, pause. Hibernate for five minutes if that’s all you’ve got. Take a walk, soak in a shower, or finally dust off that journal. The stillness allows your rational brain to come back online—and that’s where your clarity lives.

Step 2: Ditch the Hard Deadlines

Newsflash: You don’t have to decide everything right now. (Take a breath, seriously.)

Instead of making “decide if I’m leaving” your New Year’s goal, what if you made your intention to find more stillness?

Stillness isn’t lazy or indulgent. It’s necessary. It helps you access the wiser, calmer parts of your brain that know how to make decisions without spiraling.

“You don’t need the whole roadmap—just the next right step.”

Set micro-goals to build this habit:

• A five-minute morning meditation.
• A solo walk while the house is still asleep.
• A sticky note mantra in your makeup bag (hidden from nosy partners).

Put it on your calendar. Make it real. Trust that each tiny step into stillness is moving you closer to the clarity you crave.

Step 3: Use New Year Energy to Realign

New Year’s resolutions often scream “fix your whole life by February,” but this year, let’s shift that energy.

What would your ideal day look like?

• Are you spending time alone or connecting with loved ones?
• Is your partner part of that vision?
• What are you doing that makes you feel calm, happy, and whole?

Dream into those small, in-between moments. What can you borrow from that vision and start sprinkling into your life today?

“Your ideal life isn’t built in a day, but you can start building it with just one decision.”

The Bigger Picture

I know the ping-pong of relationship indecision can feel maddening—one day you’re convinced you’re leaving, the next your partner is suddenly acting loving, and you’re back to square one.

Here’s your reminder: You have more control than you think. It starts with realizing you’re worth the time and space to connect with yourself. Stillness is the secret sauce.

Need More Support? I’ve Got You Covered

You don’t have to figure this out alone. If this resonates, check out these episodes for deeper dives and inspiration:

1. Ep. 40: Finding Self-Love & Trust in Yourself So You Can Have Healthy Relationships & Increase Your Self-Esteem With EFT Tapping
2. Ep. 43: If I Leave, Will I Be Okay? Finding Strength to Leave a Narcissistic Relationship

And if you’re ready to take the next step, fill out my interest form to start creating the clarity and peace you deserve.

Remember, you’re not alone in this. You’re not “behind.” And you’re absolutely worthy of the time it takes to find your answer.

“Stillness isn’t about doing nothing—it’s about creating the space to hear everything.”

Here's to your clarity and courage.