How to Embrace Being Single After Heartbreak During the Holiday Season

The holidays are here, and for many newly single women, this season can feel like navigating a glitter-covered emotional minefield. But here’s the thing: while this time of year might bring up memories, grief, and a little extra loneliness, it also offers a powerful opportunity to redefine your narrative and step into the freedom and beauty of your newfound singleness.

I’ve been there—crying on the floor next to a stack of unread holiday cards, wondering how to move forward. And let me tell you: it’s possible not only to survive but to thrive during this season. Let’s dive into how you can embrace being single after heartbreak during the holidays, reclaim your narrative, and create a holiday season that feels truly yours.

Listen to the full episode "How to Embrace Being Single After Heartbreak During the Holiday Season" here!

Step 1: Challenge the Narrative

First things first: your story about being single during the holidays matters. Are you telling yourself you’re “alone and unloved,” or can you flip that script?

"We really get to reframe singledom and the holiday season from this period of desolate loneliness to a place of self-reflection, healing, and empowerment."

Instead of: "I’m sitting home alone with no one to cook for or exchange gifts with."

Try: "I get to decorate my space exactly how I like, cook my favorite meals, and focus on the relationships that truly matter—friends, family, and me."

The shift might feel small, but it’s powerful. It’s not about ignoring the sadness; it’s about being intentional in reframing your perspective. Your current situation isn’t a punishment—it’s a reset button for a life that’s all yours.

Step 2: Dream Up Your Perfect Holiday

Imagine this: If your ex were completely out of the picture (hint: they are!), what would your dream holiday look like? Forget traditions or obligations—what would truly light you up?

"What would your perfect holiday look like without the influence of your past partner? If you could create any type of holiday—with traditions, experiences, or people—what would it look like?"

Would it be skipping Aunt Susie’s passive-aggressive potluck and hosting a cozy dinner with your closest friends? Ordering takeout, binging rom-coms, and letting yourself laugh and cry? Journaling by the fire with your favorite coffee in hand?

Once you’ve envisioned your perfect holiday, start small. Incorporate little shifts that align with your dream. Say no to what doesn’t serve you, and say yes to what makes you feel joyful, safe, and alive.

Step 3: Build a Support System

Holidays aren’t meant to be tackled solo (unless you’re into that—and that’s okay too!). Identify your safe people—the ones who fill your cup, not drain it—and lean on them. Whether it’s a pajama party, a Zoom call, or just a quick vent session, let them in.

"We don’t need a huge network of people for depth and vulnerability. Even two or three safe people can make all the difference."

Oh, and here’s a pro tip: Create an “emergency mental health kit.” Stock it with your favorite comfort items—candles, chocolate, a list of reasons why you’re better off without your ex. When triggers pop up (because they will), you’ll have something to ground you.

Step 4: Redefine Traditions

The beauty of being single? You get to ditch the “shoulds” and create a holiday season that feels right for you. Whether it’s a solo trip to a tropical beach or crafting ornaments in your PJs, this is your time to explore what genuinely makes you happy.

"This is one of the most beautiful things about being single, in my opinion. We get to challenge the way things have been and create something new."

Take this opportunity to see your newfound singleness as freedom. You’re no longer walking on eggshells, negotiating plans, or worrying about someone else’s mood. You’re free to design a life—and a holiday season—that’s entirely your own.

Step 5: Anchor Yourself in Self-Care

Self-care isn’t just bubble baths and face masks (though those are great too). It’s about staying connected to your values and doing what brings you joy, even when things feel heavy.

"The more you take an active role in your self-care, the more self-respect you build. And self-respect leads to self-love."

Make a list of simple, go-to activities that help you reset when emotions run high:

• Go for a walk and soak in the winter sun.
• Try EFT tapping (check out Episode 40 "Finding Self-Love & Trust In Yourself So You Can Have Healthy Relationships and Increase Your Self-Esteem with EFT Tapping" for a deeper dive).
• Put on your favorite playlist and dance like nobody’s watching—because nobody is.

When you actively take care of yourself, you’re building self-respect, which grows into self-love. Baby steps matter.

Let This Be the Start of a New Chapter

Yes, the holidays might feel different this year. But they can also mark the beginning of something extraordinary: a season of shedding old layers, welcoming new possibilities, and reconnecting with who you truly are.

"Yes, there’s pain, but there’s also freedom—freedom to explore your interests, better know yourself, and create new rituals that are all your own."

And remember, you don’t have to do it alone. Fill out my Interest Form if you’re ready for deeper support, or tune into Episode 54 "How to Cope with Loneliness After Heartbreak During the Holidays" for tips on coping with loneliness during the holidays.

Let this season be the start of a beautiful, empowered chapter—because you deserve nothing less.

Here’s to rewriting your holiday story, one joyful, freedom-filled step at a time.